Then I suddenly realized I STILL do it, compare myself, and stopped recognizing it in its current form.
With days filled with constant social media updates, perfect images, and reels of other people’s lives, it’s been all too easy to fall into the trap of comparison.
I find myself comparing my business accomplishments, appearances and even my journey of self-discovery with those around me. I internalize a message that others are more successful, more spiritual, and living more fulfilling lives. I can never do enough or be far enough along.
Does this sound like you? It’s hard isn’t it, to NOT compare? Maybe you compare relationships, or the fun others are seemingly having traveling to exotic places around the world.
But here’s the truth: Comparison steals your joy and distracts you from appreciating the unique path you’re on. It keeps you from being YOU!
The beauty of being in midlife and beyond is you have the opportunity to redefine yourself and embrace your authentic self. It’s a time of self-reflection, self-discovery, and personal growth. You get to chart your own course, one that suits your unique self.
When you get caught up in comparing your journey to others, you lose sight of your own progress and the transformation that is happening within you.
So, how can you break free from the grip of comparison and cultivate true joy?
Here are some practices I use to help you on our journey:
- Embrace your unique path: Each of us has a unique story to tell and a distinct journey to embark upon. Instead of comparing yourself to others, honor your own path and embrace the experiences that have shaped you. Your journey is valuable and meaningful, no matter how it may differ from someone else’s.
- Practice gratitude: Gratitude has the power to shift your focus from what you lack to what you have. Take time each day to acknowledge the blessings in your life, big and small. Cultivating a grateful heart helps you appreciate your own journey and the joy it brings.
- Celebrate your accomplishments: While we often focus on how we feel stuck in midlife, it is also a time of reflection and appreciation for all that we have achieved. Take a moment to pat yourself on the back, and acknowledge and celebrate your accomplishments, big or small. Each step forward is a testament to your strength and resilience.
- Surround yourself with a supportive community: Like we do here in the Soulfire Sisterhood. Connection with others who are like-minded is vital in midlife. Women need women. Seek out a supportive community of friends, mentors, and fellow travelers who understand and uplift you. Together, you can inspire and encourage one another to embrace your unique paths. I am always happy to do this for you in private sessions as well, help you to see with clear vision where you’ve been and where you need and want to go.
- Practice self-compassion: Be gentle with yourself. Remember that we all have our own insecurities, doubts, and moments of vulnerability. Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would extend to a dear friend.
What kind of advice would you give your younger self?
Wishing you a day filled with self-love, gratitude, and the freedom to embrace the incredible person you are.
